I have been married to my high school sweetheart for 3 years, we got married at 21 and just had our first sweet little boy 3 months ago. Although it has been the most selfless, exhausting, life changing 3 months of my life, I vowed to myself early on in pregnancy that I would not be the wife who forgot about her husband after the baby arrived. So, since the baby has arrived, I have continued to remain my husband’s girlfriend.
Last night we celebrated the anniversary of our engagement and this morning, tucked on the nightstand was a letter from him that I wanted to share it with you:
“My Darling….My Wife.
Four years ago today, I vividly remember waking up thinking about what happened the night before we got engaged. As I woke up, I thought, ‘Wow, I won’t have to sleep alone anymore. I will have my best friend with me every night before bed and every morning when I wake up. And then, naturally, SEX! That will be awesome!’
Now as I look back over these last four years I realize, all the above are great parts of marriage, but I severely underestimated how fantastic being married to you would be, and I had pictured it being fantastic already. Life after being married to you now has depth in the full sense of the word. I look at things in a new way because of the new perspective you have gifted me with. From the simple beauty of a cozy rainy day by the fire, to a new way of looking at friendship, loyalty, faith, work and many more life experiences. You did not stop at Yes…you committed. And because of our commitment, we have had some great arguments and conversations that were hard to have, but were possible and necessary because of our vows. All this to say thank you. Thank you for saying yes. Thank you for not settling and for bringing YOU. Your wisdom and heart for what is good adds so much to who we are and who we are becoming as a family. I love you.”
Tears filled my eyes. It really does affect everything when you commit to becoming a girlfriend for life. It has changed our relationship. Since our baby has arrived, we have never loved or appreciated each other more. Sleepless nights have bonded us, the crying baby has made us cling to each other, the responsibility of a baby has grown us, parenting is refining us…What a joyous journey marriage is!
Thank you, Dr. Laura, for your encouragement to wives and to stay-at-home moms! You are like a dear friend I get to listen to every day. Thank you for fighting for happy marriages. You are so wise and young couples like us are listening and learning and DOING THE RIGHT THING!
Much love to you!