Dear Dr. Laura,
I was an optometrist, a doctor with a private practice grossing more than half a million dollars a year. I thought I was able to do it all, but then, I had my ‘aha’ moment by hearing your show for the first time. I realized I wanted to be completely present and available for my husband and our 3 boys. I wanted to give our children the best chance at success. I spoke to my husband, who confirmed what a wonderful man he always has been. We agreed to sell my thriving office so I could be a better girlfriend to my husband and mother to my boys. Sure I’ve always loved them and would do anything for them, but now I actually was doing what I know for certain was best for my family. I told them: “When I am old and someone were to ask me if I’d do anything different, I didn’t want to say ‘I wish I spent more time being with my boys’. Dad and I have decided to make some changes for the better”. I cannot express or recreate the joy in their eyes! My then 5, 9 and 12-year-old boys had their mother full time.
I have since been raising loving, nurturing, responsible, fun, happy, unique boys who have on numerous occasions stood up for what they believe is right. They are truly my pride and joy! Throughout the years, they each, on numerous occasions, have commented on how happy they are that I decided to stay home. There has not been a single day where I regret my decision. It feels good to do the right thing.
Currently, my oldest is heading off to an Ivy League to further his education and play varsity golf. My 15-year-old just wrote and published his first science fiction novel which touches upon bullying, standing up for what’s right and not judging anyone’s capabilities too hastily, especially based on age. My youngest enjoys nature and is always asking interesting questions and giving me his wonderful insight on things. Seeing the world through his eyes has been a fascinating experience. I am so happy I’ve taken this journey with my family. With my support and his new motivation, my husband has grown his business and has made up for my loss of salary. He is our family’s rock. And me, well I am our home’s doctor, chef, maid, psychologist, chauffeur, editor, coach, lifeguard, travel agent, cheerleader, … I am my kids mom! I went and did the right thing… Thank you!
Tamar, Dr. Mom